“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.” - Thich Nhat Hanh
In the flurry of Christmas, it is easy to focus on the things we will give our loved ones, but what about the things we give them that aren’t things? What are they? Our time, attention, care and love. Those are much more important than the things under the tree. For some people, it will be a lean Christmas because of the economy, but remember things are only things, the really important part of gifts is expressing how you feel about each other. So here are some ideas for expressing your love and care for your family without spending a lot of money.
Hand-made gifts are one way to save money and treat your loved ones to something special. What to make? People love home-made biscuits, cakes and other treats. They also love things for the bath, lotions and massage oils. Or you could put together a calendar using family photos. Be sure to include birthdays and special events throughout the year.
Try putting together a basket of local fruits and preserves from the markets. Or make up a book of “treats” they can use throughout the year, like “One car wash” or “One clean garage”. Ideas and recipes are available at www.clearwatercentre.com.au.
If you are looking for a one-size-fits-all present, consider Massage gift certificates from Clearwater Centre for Health and Wellbeing. Liz Moldenhauer is an excellent massage therapist. She now offers Indian Head Massage using hot stones. Unlike its name, Indian Head Massage focuses on the upper back, neck and shoulders. It’s especially good for people suffering head and neck aches. Prices start at just $15 for fifteen minutes and it’s much better than a scratchie! Ring 4091 6300 to arrange gift certificates.
For those strapped for time, you might like to consider gifts that give twice, like those from Oxfam (www.oxfam.com.au), Amnesty International http://www.amnesty.org.au/ or the Hungersite http://www.thehungersite.com/
Are there people on your list who have everything? Oxfam even has a new program called “Oxfam Unwrapped” (www.oxfamunwrapped.com.au), where you can pick out a gift like providing a donkey or food to a needy family. You donate money for the cause you think is most important and Oxfam sends your loved one a card with a description of the gift. Everyone benefits. Your loved one knows you love them and a family somewhere gets a chance at a better life. You also benefit knowing you’ve done something good for the people around you and the world out there. How good is that?
Remember, it’s the thought that counts, not the size or cost of the gift, so give of yourself; your time, your love, your care. Don’t just go see your family and friends this Christmas, be with them. It’s your presence, not your presents that they need. When you do, your friends and family will gain more than you can even imagine. They gain the most by knowing you love them.
